My name is Chelsea, I'm 17 & a senior in high school. I like giving advice and helping people in general. I have the most experience in areas like family issues, dealing with friends and losing friends, pregnancy scares, and moving. I've made mistakes and learned from them. That's where my experience comes from. So why not help someone in the same situation that you've already been in? I'll try to do just that, and if you have a question don't hesitate to ask!
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okay, my boyfriend calls me his everything.. and that he doesn't want to loose me and stuff like that.. and me & him worked out EVERYTHiNG so theres basically nothing wrong in the relationship. but one of the things that we worked out still bothers me.. cause yannoe it was dealing with this girl .. who used to be my friend cause she talked behind my back and stuff.. and was also his last girlfriend. and it had been almost a year since they've broken up. and hes kinda stupid in relationships cause they stopped talking because she was talking behind my back to him, so he didn't want to be friends with her anymore. and like 2 months later she talked to him first, and now they're friends again. like.. bestfriends. so thats why i can't trust them together yannoe? cause she told him that she doesn't hate me and she stopped talking about me a long time ago. but EVERYBODY knows she hates me... she even left some clues that are obvious that says she hates me.. and she talked about me to him, but he was slow enough not to know. and he says "she wouldn't lie to me.. cause we're good friends." and he even talks about our relationship problems with her.. but the reason why i have changed, and i don't want her to get to know me anymore. and then when we talked it out... he told me that he'll change and he'll come to me now, and talk it out with me for now on. and that he loves me, and that his ex and him are bestfriends.. but she could basically be his mother (not the first time i heard that), and that i'm not competing with her or anything. >. (link)
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I was in a situation similar to yours recently, and I know it isn't easy.
But really honestly, I do think you need to consider everything here, the pros and cons about him if you want to. You shouldn't stick around if you think you're going to get hurt, and if other people that see you in the situation and see him first hand are saying that you should break up, then they're saying it to help you.
If you believe that you can do better, which you could, then you should do it! Don't limit yourself to what you have at the moment, and don't settle for anything less than what makes you completely 100% happy all of the time. A boyfriend that isn't completely yours, really isn't a very good boyfriend. And you should get what you deserve, and that is one that you can call your own for sure
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