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Q: my mom's extremely strict and stubborn. i can't hang out with guys, can't date them, and i can't do a bunch of other stuff that every other 13 year old girl CAN. i can't have sleepovers with friends. and it drives me NUTS. i've had one in my life with a friend because my parents had a wedding, and thats IT. my friend jenna and me are staying home all summer and we wanna hang out..a lot. (were best friends) and she was like "lets have a sleepover on friday with ana" (ana is my other friend) and im scared my mom wont let me. im not sure if shes okay with it or not, because its summer and she knows i have nothing to do. im just so scared. i know jenna is going to have SO many sleepovers like she always does. and i always feel like im a weirdo and im always outside of my circle of friends. they have millions of sleepovers with each other, and i havent had any. i just really need some VERY convincing reasons why i should be able to have sleepovers over the summer. please, i dont want to be left out all summer to..:-\

Talk to your mom about it. Face your fears. She will never know if you dont say anything. Discuss it with both of your parents (step parents etc...) And maybe one parent could convince the other.

Rating: 5

thanks, im gonna try that when my dad gets home.

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