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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

ok soo say I have sex. my mom told me to tell her if I do. I would die before I ever told my mom! idon't know what to do. and pluss birth control.... yeah umm I really don't want to tell my mom and is ther anyway ican get on birth control with out anyone really knowing? cuase I can't tell my mom 1 she would flip and 2 she would never let me see my boyfriend again?
oh and If I got on birth control down the rode if I got off it could I get pregnant if I want to?
thank you sooo much!

Search for a planned parenthood agency in your area. They will give you a free birth control prescription. If you can't find one, call your doctor's office, explain the situation, and they'll will most likely be able to set up an appointment for you and find a way for you to afford birth control.

And farther down the road, you will still be able to get pregnant. You CAN still get pregnant on birth control as a matter of fact. All birth control does is alter your cycle and stop your ovaries from releasing an egg. But yes, don't worry about being able to have a baby in the future.

And another bit of advice, I would suggest talking to your mom about sex. It would be better to be honest with her now than to have her find out about it later. You'll be in even bigger trouble. You'd be surprised how moms can be cool sometimes. Hopefully things will work out.

Good luck!

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(Rating: 5) thank youuuuu.
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