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im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.
i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.
i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?
first hun let me say that i respect your stance. you have values and you stick with them. thats a good thing no matter what they are ... even if they were the same as how "old people think"........ you're not prudish if you really believe in what you say believe in....
so when it comes to your friend i think you should make it clear to her that you believe in so and so and that your not afraid of what people will think. she may taunt or be stupid about it but in the end she'll respect you (if truly she's worth your friendship and time).
when it comes to her attitude and her values, there isn't anything really that you can do except point out the consequences of what her actions will lead her too.... i.e. advice. beyond that its hands of. but still be there for her when things happen....thats what friends are for after all. if you are old enough to know what is right and wrong and decide, so is she.... if things dnt work out you don't have to dump her as a friend unless again if you are not comfortable with her anymore try to keep her as a formal friend or acquaintance (and dont do this suddenly it'll look weird!) just try to hang out with people closer to your mentality ... it'l widen your social circle and put you at ease with who you are.
guluck....
(Rating: 5) thank you so much