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my names kayla, i am 15, i`m turning 16 this week, on the 22nd. i am pretty young, but i`ve been through a lot more than most girls my age have so i find it easy to give advice. i do my best to answer every question. and if i offend you, or give you an answer you aren't happy with, feel free to be totally straight forward & give me some feedback. :) hope i can help you!
-kayla

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im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.

i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.

i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?

ok, 14 was a big year for me, and i`m assuming that its probably the same way for everyone else. everybody changed when they get out of middle school (i`m assuming your in highschool). you mature, & everyone gets curious. highschool relationships are nothing. you don`t have to wait for someone special. sweety, you're thinking like you're twenty years old or something. i mean when you get older you should wait to date the right person, but in highschool.. your supposed to date all different kinds of people so you can learn what you like & dislike in a boyfriend and what kinds of people you'd like to stay away from. its all part of the learning experience, because trust me.. you're not supposed to be looking for your soulmate when you're in highschool. second of all.. making out is nothing. i`ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.. i madeout with him before i kissed him & i was infront of all of my friends. ( i`m starting to think me & your friend are pretty similar so maybe my point of view will help you to understand hers) i don`t blame you for wanting a guy to care about you..but being intimate doesn't mean he only wants you for your body because sometimes that can actually bring people closer together. if she's bringing up her boyfriend a lot just try to block it out, be supportive of her if you value her friendship because trust me, she'll learn from her mistakes, & if you really do care about her you need to be there for her.. not judge her. you need to focus on yourself.. let her do what she wants, because her mistakes shouldnt have to impact you. & you shouldn't have to deal with them. & if shes blowing you off constantly, maybe she isn't worth worrying about to begin with.

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(Rating: 5) her boyfriend really does only want to go out with her to "get some"... but thanks for your point of view, i kind of get where she's coming from now.
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