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Q: i'm going to the beach for a week and im really nervous because i'm due for my period that week. but it MIGHT not come because i got my period last summer and its still irregular. but i'm 13 and going into eighth grade and i dont use tampons and I don't really no anyone my age who does. but i really have no choice of wearing a tampon if i go down the shore, i'll be in the water most of the time. am i a little too young and not had my period long enough to use one? i tried to put a tampax compax tampon in one time, and it would go in! i pushed hard. and i started crying and sweating becuase i was really nervous and wasn't sure if I was putting it in the right spot. So, do you think I should use one and where to I put it in?!? Also, like I never fingered myself or anything so is it going to feel like pleasuring if I put it in, and will it hurt? I never put anything ever up there!

If you don't get your period, don't worry about it. If you do, get extra small tampons (yes, they come in different sizes). Getting small ones will help with your comfort level. It is unlikely that placing a tampon in your vagina will feel pleasing to you. But, if it does, that is okay. The easiest way to put a tampon in when you are young is to lay down on the floor or on a bed, bend your knees, spread your legs, and insert the tampon into your vagina. Use your finger as a guide for finding the opening to your vagina, once you've found it, the right sized tampon will easily go in. Once the tampon is in you will feel "full" down there, but it shouldn't hurt. The tampon will expand after you get into the water. When you feel that, don't be nervous, it's just soaking in water.
If you have a mother, a close aunt, or other close female friend, you may want to ask them to help you.