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To give you some background, I've been working at my new job for just under 2 weeks now, and I'll be here until the beginning of September. I'm working (and living) at a resort in the mountains in British Columbia, but my home is in Ontario. So I'm really far away from home. I had to leave my friends, family and boyfriend behind to take this job because I really needed the money for tuition and rent in the fall.

I really like the people out here. They're nice. But I still feel really lonely. I miss everyone from at home, and I miss my boyfriend most of all.

Also, I'm getting really discouraged. I feel like I'm doing everything wrong while I'm working, but nobody notices if I'm doing things right. I keep being told off by people for little things that I miss. Every time someone else is busy, I'm asked to take on extra work, but nobody helps me out when I need it. My job is boring and tedious. It requires me to be on my feet for up to 10 hours a day, and my back hurts so badly sometimes that I have trouble breathing. I can't do anything but rest when I'm off, because I'm still in pain days later.

Any advice on how to not be miserable for the entirety of the 80 days I have left?

I can somewhat relate to you as far as being away from family, having to take on extra work & being exhausted when you get home. I would never say to give up simply because your job is hard. It wouldn't be called work if it was easy. I know the first couple of weeks are stressful because you are still trying to get the hang of things & it's easy to get frustrated & discouraged when you can't. I'd suggest talking to your boss & telling her/him everything you told us. If that doesn't work & changes can't be made for you as far as proper training & the amount of work thrown onto, don't even bother. You should never work for a company who doesn't care & isn't willing to help you become more efficient @ your job.


Also, you should never force yourself to work a job your body cannot physically handle. I know I've been having major back problems for almost a couple years & I've come to the conclusion I have carried all my stress on my back. Try pacing yourself, taking deeper breaths & not letting things get to you too much. Overreacting & worrying too much can cause anxiety attacks which COULD be a cause of problems breathing.

Like I said, talk to your boss & see what can changed. Try walking into work with a different mindset (I know, it's really hard to do sometimes) & see if that helps of those physical problems. If not, try taking on a lighter position @ a company who really appreciates you & your hard work. :)

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(Rating: 5) I wish I could look for work elsewhere... but leaving here now means an extra 400$ of expense, which I just can't afford.
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