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Okay, so my boyfriend now has a job and football.. and i only get to see him at school in the hallway (we don't have classes together) and like 5 hours on sundays.

i think it's really unfair, and sometimes when he gets days off his parents don't let us see each other, for no reason. i don't think they hate me though since they do let me come over sometimes too. we've been going out for like 7 months, and i REALLY love him but not getting to see him much kinda sucks now.

his parents say he HAS to have a job, so he can't get out of that.. & i don't think he will want to quit football because he's played it every year since he was like, 4.. but do you think the time we see each other is enough? what should i do? i'm 16 & he's 17.. & football ends in october :/ & he is always going to have a job so yeah..

If you really like him don't give up on him, he probablly doesn't like the fact that he has little time to spend with you and can't get out of his job. Im sure he would rather spend his time with you rather than working. His footbal is another thing that you SHOULD NOT make him quit because it is a sport and he is an athlete and you can't keep athletes from playing sports or else its a waste of their athletic ability. They also wouldn't be very happy because it would be like you're taking away something that they love. I know it sucks, but you have to keep in mind that its not like hes dissing you off and choosing to go hang out with his friends or party rather than hang out with you. School, work, and if you're playing on a team is all responsibilities to yourself, to your family, and to your team, so it wouldn't be fair to make him choose between you and those things. Im not saying to stay with him if you're unhappy and want something else, but if you do care for him and want to be with him but are just upset at the moment over his busy schedule, then you should try and be understanding and supportive of him, his busy schedule, and his strict parents (because that probablly sucks for him just as much as it sucks for you.) If you care about each other then you should try to make it work even through thick and thin. Im sure if you were in the predicament he is in you wouldn't want him to up and leave you. Relationships always have their rocky points and unless you are not into him anymore or he is disrespecting you and being inconsiderate of your feelings, then you should stay with him and be there for eachother. Especially, if his football ends in october then at least he'll have a little more time for you then. Its hard to keep up sometimes if you're busy and its also hard to be waiting for someone when you want them there with you, but you just have to make the choice if hes is worth waiting for. Also, you could find one perk, is that you're not sick of eachother for spending too much time together and everytime you guys do get to see eachother you're probablly loving every minute of it. You could also try and do other fun things with your friends or whatever in the time that he is busy with his responsibilities, that way time wont pass so slowly till the next time you see him.

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