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Hey advice givers, I'm Shyamali. But if you know me you can call me Shy. I love singing and the whole entertainment business. I have naturally black hair but I lightened it to brown. I have brown eyes & I'm about 5"4' & reasonably thin. I'm East Indian & Half Italian. If you want to talk to me then please contact me at Shyamalisings@yahoo.com, not here. I don't want to fill up my advice column with talking to other people. I love to sing and I was born on January 1, back in '87 so my zodiac sign is Pisces. I'm in a relationship right now and I'm excited to get started on my advice column! By the way, I am not Shyamali Malakar. I am a fan of her and her brother-- that's all.

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okay theres this girl in my class. ive known her since this year and shes okay i guess.. oh yeah im 13 and a girl too. im not really friends with her but we sit at the same lunch table so we talk occasionally. i used to think she was okay, until one day she just changed. well it kinda progressed to her changing.. i only see her at lunch and special periods. first in the year we had music and i liked her and we usually partnered together. next was art and we were at diff tables. she sat at a table with alot of the cool popular people.. maybe that affected her? like soon after that its like she was trying to make herself be something.. she just wasnt before. its like she is so fake i hate it. then soon she got a new haircut and she keeps flipping it all the time.. and the way she acts its like too overly nice and shes trying to be cool i think but i'd rather her just be the girl from before. and then she acts all nice and stuff.. like now in homec thats what she does, but at lunch like once i asked if i could borrow a little hand sanitizer and she was all like "no!" and like pretty meanly. it was just a little sanitizer and it was hanging from her bag.. yeah thats pretty sad i couldnt even borrow a little. and like its like shes trying to act like shes superior to other people and would just seem like.. UGHH i dont wanna be around her! but shes in my home ec group and if shes not in our group she will have nobody else so we have to have her!!! DOUBLE ughhhhh. HELP. PLEASE.

This is simple. All of the popular girls & guys end up being the backstabbers in the end, do you really think they want to be friends with her? No. They don't; the reality is, everyone changes themselves to look cool to win other's approval... but they make an unforgettable mistake when they do that, and that's punishment enough. Just don't talk to her, don't hang around her. But you don't really know her so... why do you care so much? I really think you should just calm down about this whole situation. She's not losing you, and you're not losing her... she's losing herself. She will realize soon enough that those popular girls and guys will backstab her and lie and whatnot. And you not being involved will teach her that lesson. After they've taken their toll on her, just be merely an aquaintance to her. You don't have to be friends with her, just be civil. Don't worry, she'll learn her lesson. But what really strikes me as a bit odd is that you are so consumed in the fact that you're losing her friendship when as you've described it, you don't even know her. I don't mean to be rude, but you should stay out of her business. This happens to everyone in life, relax! Do you really think that she's going to know you 10 years from now? What's her favorite movie? What's her favorite band? What's her favorite color? What's her favorite show? What's her favorite food? If you answered NO to the majority of the questions - you don't know her very well. You're not losing anyone so you're okay. 'Kay? :D This isn't a life altering decision for either of you :]
Cherish,
Shyamali

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(Rating: 5) thanks! uh.. by any chance, are you shayalami malakar.. or sanjaya's sister?
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