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My name is alix. I'm fourteen &i live just moved to massachusets. i love all of my closer friends; theyre my life. i like cats, and my favorite food is soanish rice. i like going to the movies with all my friends; we do it every friday. it's a routine. i love giving advice about guys, but what i really love are questions from guys about girls. im really opinionated, but im usually not very harsh when i answer things.

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15/f

i'm jewish, go to a jewish private school with a dress code that's not strictly enforced.

so my boyfriend and i just broke up and i'm on the market again. before i had a boyfriend, i used to dress...well, not slutty, but let's just say i wore revealing clothes. unconsiously, when i had a boyfriend, i wore more modest clothes. now i'm single again, i just bought new stuff last week from h&m and urban outfitters, and i'm not sure what to do. should i continue to dress modestly or is it ok for me to dress...well, slutty? i didn't dress exactly like a slut...just bared some cleavage and wore short skirts. i have big boobs and small legs and i want to play them up to my advantage.

i know my teachers (and my mom) would like it better if i continued dressing modestly, but i know that guys...well, appreciate me being a little revealing. and i am looking, not for a relationship, but to have some fun. so should i be modest or be "slutty"?

Hey I'll answer your question in half a second, but first I just want to clear something up:
Most guys think you're kind of demeaning yourself if your dressing slutty. They don't think you respect yourself, and therefore, they don't respect you. And in some situations, I think like, whatever. But you should dress MORE conservative(not nesesarrily conservative, but moreso) at school. Not because it's a place where you should be modest blah blah blah, but because chances are, that's where your next bf is going to come from. And if not your next one, definitely the grand majority of them. So you want those guys to respect you. Even if you don't need it now, you will want it eventually.


But as for your question:
Go ahead, dress a little slutty. I know I do. Don't be too much of a slut, but it's okay to have guys look at you. My rule of thumb is to be kinda alutty in one area only. So if you're wearing a really short skirt, then don't go overboard with cleavage too. If your jeans are really tight and low, wear a more conservative top. It shows that you don't want guys to see everything, and it leaves some for their imagination. Would you want to hook up with a guy who you'd already seen all of, or would you want to feel more like you were... discovering him? haha I know that sounds weird, but I think you know what I mean. They're not going to want you if they think they can get you anyday anyway.

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(Rating: 5) yeah, i know exactly what you mean about not revealing everything at once. idk, i just feel weird about dressing modestly. it doesn't fit me. i don't feel comfortable. but yeah, i won't go overboard.
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