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Q: 15/f - 15/m

sorry in advance if this is a tad long...

Tonight my boyfriend and I has sex for the first time. I DO NOT regret it all, I really do love him no matter what anyone else.. you can't tell me how I feel about it. I understand alot of people are against intercourse at young ages, but please don't lecture me.. just help.

The Problem: We both had never has sex before this. We were comfortable with it, but still nervous at the same time. First time gitters I guess. Anyways, as he began to cum, he started to pull out. As he pulled out the comdon slipped off. Still half way in and half way out... as soon as we noticed, I pulled the condom out. We stopped and didnt continue at all. We are both scared. We are not sure, if anything accidently fell in or what. I think we are over thinking the negatives, and not focous on some of the positives. Anything that can help us. We CANT tell our parents, they would kill us.. and we are both the oldest so no older sibling to run to... If it helps anything, I just got off my peirod last week around Thursday. We need people who know what they are talking about. We're scared

I guess one the worst things that could have happened did.. Things go wrong, and I guess it just wanst our day.

Please anything..

Thanks so much !!

First of all:

Kudos to you for using your heads and using a condom.

Sometimes these things happen, and it's par for the course if you are sexually active. If you get your next period on time, chalk it up as a learning experience; you're probably not pregnant.

However, if you brought yourself into the world of the sexually active, it's time to deal with the big issue of birth control. If your main worry is pregnancy, you might want to consider getting on the pill, that way if this occurs again your chances of getting pregnant will be dramatically reduced. You should also have a yearly gyno exam and be tested for stds. If you can get to the health department on your own, most states have a birth control program, and they are NOT required to tell your parents nor will they contact you by mail. If you're going to get serious with your love interest, get serious about precautions!

Good going on the condom though, E for effort! ;)

Rating: 5

thanks, im already looking into it :)

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