I am kind of new to this, but I think i might be able to help you with your problems. If you ask me a question and I do not know anything about it, I will tell you that I do not know much about that, but I will tell you what i would do in that situation. I hope I can help.
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okay so i moved here earlier this year, -- i met some friends and through those friends i met my now, best friend, her name is Gina. Over the past couple of months me and Gina have been getting really close and all. Close enough that we have been sharing secrets and stuff. So we realized that we both cut. me more then her..but a few weeks ago she told me i was the only one who knew that she used to have an eating disorder for the past two years and she has had her withdrawels and relapses and stuff.. [you can deff. tell by looking at her that she does] Well now im more cautious of what she eats because i really care about her. The past few days ive been noticing she hasnt been eating or eats very little. today she brought cookies,cheesecurls,a sandwhich and a crunch bar. [her mom packed it.] and she gave away all the junk food leaving her with the sandwhich..she stared at it and threw it away. im really concerned for Gina. shes my best friend and i dont want to lose her and i want her to still feel like she can talk to me. what do i do? (link)
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I have been in a similar situation, and I am actually in one now. The first thing you should do is ask her about it. She might say something along the lines of, "I ate a big breakfast," or, "I'm just not hungry right now." If she does say something like that, tell her you are worried and exactly what you are thinking. I know it is kind of scary because you think you might lose her as a friend, but most of the time people will ahve more respect for you if you be straight forward with them. The next thing you should do, is offer to help her. She may think that she has to do it in a crash diet and go anorexic, which isn't right, but to some people it can seem the only thing to do. After that, try to find out if she wants to go on a diet, and if she does, offer to help her find a diet that she likes. Then, the only thing you can do is make sure she stays on her diet and be a good friend. I hope this helps.
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