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Q: I been dating my boyfriend for sometime now. I am only 15 and he is 16. we made a mistake and have a son together now who is 3 months old. my boyfriend has lied so much to me. he disappeared for weeks at a time with out telling me where he was going or when he be back or with out even calling. he told he was going to sleep before but left his house and stayed at this girls house who liked him and his ex girlfriend lived there to. i try over and over again to forgive him but we keep fighting i forgave him all those times and never broke up with him. because i love him and i want him to around for his kid. he dropped out of school he gets fired from every job because he doesnt go to work because he is to tired his son is scared of him because he is never around i dont know what to do anymore please help

Alright listen.... first of all the person above me dont listen to them. A restraining order? come on now has he hit you? has he abused you or your child? then that is a little harsh. But yes you should break it off with him and get him for child support. Never deprived the father of his rights to see the child because when he grows up hes going to wonder and my friends and stuff without a father alot of my family members grew up without a father and it tares them apart. my friend he isnt allowed to see his son and it hurts him. Dont ever deprive the father or the child the right unless he hurt the child or you and your scared for the well fare of the life. If you do deprive them of the right to know each other your just as bad as him. I know its a hard truth but it is the truth break it off with him and get him in court to settle it legally. Your better off without. Hope iv helped a little write back.
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Thanks you for your help and i would never do a restraining order unless someone was being harmed. we broke it off today and ill be calling a number for child support and to set up visitation with a police office( my exs father said he was going to moleste my son) so it would make me feel safer with a cop for now at least

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Hey, my name is Kelley, a little bit about my life: Im 24 i have a 4 year old daughter, when i was younger i got into alot of trouble because i felt unwanted and picked on alot in school. As i grew up i got into several bad abusive relationships. Now that i have gotten out of my old life im crawling up from the ashes and making a new life. Im a great listener and i love giving advice, if youd like to give me a shot id try my hardest to give the best advice i can give. The reason some people dont like me is because i tell it how it is i dont sugar code anything and im very opinionated. Id love to listen to your problems and help out that best i can.