Member Since: April 3, 2007
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Last Update: April 23, 2007
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Alright, so, I have a boyfriend. We've been talking for a year but technically only been together 4 months. It's a very...intense relationship and we've dealt with a lot. Both of us have some depression problems so i don't think it's the healthiest relationship in the world. I think we should break up, or at leat take a long break but I know if i tell him this he'll do something drastic. He has problems with cutting as did I and the last time something like this came up he almost killed himself. I guess part of me is tired of being around guys like this. Anyone have any advice on letting him go without him doing something horrible? (link)
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The truth is there is no easy answer to this question. What you need to decide is if you really want out or you don't. Sometimes in relationships like yours you want out sometimes and other times it is as if only the two of you can truly understand one another and you can't imagine being without that person. If you want to stay that;s ok you'll leave when your ready. But if you want to go you must realize you are not responsible for your lover. Nothing you do or say can control their behavior. Just make sure you say what you mean and if your lover is a true danger to himself recommend to him that he seek professional help or speak to someone you think might be in a position to help him and discuss your concerns. Keep in mind you are only responsible for yourself but by breaking it off and then going back you are doing damage to both yourself and your lover so make a decision and stick with it even when it hurts.
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Yeah, i've reccomended he get help but he says he doesn't need it (he's had some lame psychiatrists in the past). Thanks for the advice, it helped a lot
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