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lately, i've been feeling kind of down sometimes.
It's like, when im hanging with my friends, im fine most of the time.
When I'm home, with nothing to distract me, I tend to get very depressed.
Well depressed is a strong, i just feel kind of sad for no specific reason.
I get in a lot of fights with my parents and that stinks, and I like a guy I can never have, but besides for that I have a pretty good life.
What's going on?
What do i do?
Thanks!
hun its normal.... its puberty... i am telling you it suxxxxxxx. there is nothing i can say or do to make it all go away... and there is no advice in the world that can solve it for you but this: join a club or activity or sport or something...it will get your mind of something and you'll become really good at something you like (not to mention your body will thank you for it if you get into sports or so).
i went through this and it only started to fade about a year ago when i was 19.thing is i forced myself to have many activities and now that i am off alone in college, i dnt feel as bad.
when i was in high school i would only feel like that before i go to bed, and thats because that was the only time i had for myself and because when i saw my parents it was only for a few minutes before i was off to do homework study run, dance, go to pilates, read, babysit...etc...
wait!
hey i smell something stinky here! yup... low confidence and negative vibes~ wot do you mean you can never have him?!?! trust me i've seen people who don't belong with each other or were from different social levels or cliques... no it wasnt love at first sight! the girl in the relationship was usually smart and honestly, just herself. HOWEVER... these are some things that i found helped make "herself" glow:
-had confidence that could produce a thousand nuclear weapons (mind you it wasn't snobbery! there is a difference) she just ddnt care wot people say on how she looks (tho if she lookd nice its always a bonus) or anything like that. as long as it felt rite to her she did it.
-she always made sure she smelled good, looked clean, and wore what SHE thot was nice. hygiene!! i cant emphasize that enough.
-spoke to him like any other person (be nice! even though you may be as nervous as hell)
-once you've established friendship be nice and invite him to where ever it is you'd like (u dnt have to officially say its a date just let him decide wot it is)
-think before you act
-smile
-keep eye contact.
-flirt
-say hello when you see him around.
-make small talk. about something you have in common. if you are face to face and have nothing to say dnt make something up you'll look like an idiot. just say hi be quiet for a min if he dsnt say anything excuse yourself and leave. oh and try to talk with someone you knw in the room so it dsnt look like you're not social or something. look at him and smile and keep eye contact. all the better if you continue socializing with others.
-NEVER TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR CRUSH. even tho your frnds are loyal. they can help but look if he's around and trust me boys notice and they keep aways. so keep those lips sealed.
-apply this to everyone. if the peolpe around you think youre sweet and confident. chances r he will too. that is when its up to you and them chem between you :))))
p.s: do these slowly. patience is key. if youre usually a shy girl and outta the blue u just decide to be all confident and outgoing its gunna look weired. start by acting a bit composed and collected (C.C.C. calm cool and collected!) and then slowly start talking to people. move to guys. flirt with them. when you feel confident talk to mr golden... good luck!
(Rating: 5) thnx a bunch!