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I already asked this question earlier and got some feed back but I wanna put it back up at the top and see if I get some more oppinions before I develop my own conclusion...
Info: Ok I am 23 and he is 19. We are both artists and musicians. I am black and he is white. Question: I had a crush on this guy at work. Turns out he had a crush on me too. He asked me to date him exclusively. I said yes and we did. He told his family that we were going to be dating and they flipped out because 1/2 of them are racist. We talked about it and decided to work through it. We didn't have sex but we did make out and mess around some, shared some private goals and beliefs etc. Then he calls me after we spend the night together, the day he was supposed to talk to his family and work something out, and says that he isn't as interested as he thought he was. He says we should be friends, but then he stops calling and talking and everything. Then I hear that he was using me to get this chick at work jealous. But he doesn't seem like a malicious person like that, and I think he loves his family too much to take them through that for nothing.He also cried on my shoulder and wrote a song dude! About our relationship and situation. What do you think? What is going on?
Okay, I think something happened between his family. Now, if my family said something so mean to me [as in a threat] I would probably be scared so I guess that is what this boy is feeling.
The World is filled with Gossipers so don't believe everything you hear at first. Go to the source. Study this boy very closly. Ask yourself questions like:
*Is he around a girl that may be a girlfriend?
*Is he dating a girl at work?
*Is he single?
*Does he seem happy?
*Is his family ALWAYS there?
These questions might be the answer itself.
If you get lost from doing all the questioning, just go straight up to this guy and say;; Look, I have heard that you were using me to get a chick here and if that is true, you should tell me because I deserve to know.
If he doesn't respond, walk away and say "that's all I needed to know."
It will probably be a yes if he didn't respond.
If you need more help feel free to ask me anything! ^.^
(Rating: 5) Yeah that is what I was thinking about doing. And you are right I have been asking my self those same questions and he is not as happy or as enthused at work, I never see him around this chick. Yes his family is always around, that is a part of the challenge but I am willing to work through that. and yes he is still single. Hmmm. Thank you. I will do that next time I see him and I can get him alone. Peace.