Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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Brandi_S
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ok..so i am afraid ever since i was little my mom always told me never to have a boyfriend becase they always only want sex. so i grew up(im 15 by the way) hating guys. so i really liked this guy and we went out and i was always afraid to tell him how i felt i was afraid of letting him hug me i dont know why i feel like i look stupid kissing him. or hugging him. and when i would kiss him i would always feel uncomfterable and never want to do it. i never told him how much i liked him. my mom just keeps telling me all these negative things about guys, she also told me that guys just want to have sex and that god will be mad with me if i have a boyfriend so i dont want God to be mad at me! what do i do? help please! (link)
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God will not be mad at you for having a boyfriend. Your mom is just being very overprotective, which is understandable, but she shouldn't be scaring you away from guys, because then it will be hard for you to have a real relationship with a guy because you will not be able to open up or trust him. If you really your boyfriend, let him know that you have grown up believing that guys are only interested in sex, and that you should not trust them, so it is hard for you to trust guys in the first place and that you do not want to be pressured to do anything you are not ready for. If he cares for you, he will understand and help you. As for the sex thing, if you do not want it to happen, do not let it happen. People say that you should not have sex until you are married, and your mom probably believes in that, so if you are going to be with the guy, then maybe you should take that into consideration.
So don't feel guilty about having a boyfriend, a lot of girls your age have one. Be careful and do not let him pressure you to do something you are not ready for. Good Luck and work on the trust thing.
Teacup
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