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hey. i'm 14 and is a girl of many interests and doesn't limit myself to what i can hold. i'm scared of a lot of things, but my life long goal is to conquer them. i love to help people's love lives, especially the ones that remind me of the ones i've had and have right now. i don't like having a lot of time in my hands because it makes me think of things i don't wanna think about. like past relationships, my current life, etc. but i guess it's okay to do that sometimes. as for the moment, i'm pretty much in love with my guy best friend. i asked him out. he said no. we're still good friends. he said that our friendship is more important and will last longer than a relationship. yea i agree. but, you know that feeling of emptiness, and you feel like only one person can fill it? well, that's how i'm feeling right now. i feel empty without him in my life as more than a friend. anyways. i'm here for anything, and i'll try my best to give you advice and such. my AIM is : WANNA BE iiN LUV. feel free to IM me if you need help. =)

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i'm with my very first boyfriend. i've been with him a couple weeks and everything has been great. except one thing, i hardly ever see him. i've only seen him once and we've been dating since the end of Febuary. I really want to see more of him, but i don't really know what to do. almost all of my friends have a girlfriend or boyfriend (guys and girls btw) and they've already been saying "i love you" and stuff. I guess i just feel kind of prude because i've never even got kissed before. i'm kind of afraid to be kissed too..even though i know he wants too. and i really want to go for it. but how do you do it?

don't follow everything your friends do. just because they say "i love you" to their "significant other" doesn't mean you have to. most of the people i know, they say i love you to their boyfriend/girlfriend, but at the end of the relationship, they act like they never liked the person they were with and stuff. my first boyfriend, was when i was 12 yrs. old. i said i love you to him about a month into our relationship. though, i now know that maybe i didn't LOVE him, i knew that i really did like him ... A LOT. i miss him [we broke up about 6 months after we started going out and stuff], and i'm still kinda friends with him.
just because you haven't gotten a kiss before doesn't mean your a loser or whatever. that boy i was talking about was my first kiss, too. yes, first boyfriend = first kiss. atleast it was to me. but you don't have to do that. kiss when you feel like you really want him to be your first kiss, not because you feel like if you don't kiss somebody now, everybody's gonna hate you. what my ex did, he actually asked me if he could kiss me. of course i said yes. but it wasn't til about 15 mins. after he asked me that we really did it. he flirted with me first, holding my hands, hugging me really tight, saying i love you every 2 mins., etc. then, he kissed my cheek, then i moved and we kissed in the lips. now, you don't have to do that, but it sure was pretty sweet.
as for wanting to see him, you don't have to see each other every day to have a relationship. yes, that would've been so much better, but a relationship isn't all about seeing each other. it's also about getting to know each other, enjoying each other's company when you can. i suggest you go to the movies every now and then. or go to bowling. just do something together. get some friends to come with you if your parents don't want you all alone with him. but just try to find time to spend with each other. in your case, and mines too back then, cherish every minute you have with each other. it'll feel so much special.

if you have other questions or problems, just message me!

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