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if a guy and a girl have been going out for over a year and havent had sex is it really wrong?
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if i dont will he go off and sleep with someone else? do guys do that?
If you and a guy have been going out for a year, then it's not wrong that you have not had sex. It's about whether you or he are ready to have sex, it's whether you two are comfortable with the thought of sex within your relationship. It's really about can your relationship handle sex, and if you two really want to go through with it. I don't know what you want to do, and I don't know what you b/f wants to do. That's for you to find out. You may know where you stand on this issue. Wherever you stand, make sure that it's known to him. And if he doesn't respect where you stand, then that's his problem not yours, and you may want to reconsider being in a relationship w/ a guy who doesn't respect your beliefs/principles or etc. I think that after a year, you two may need to be talking about sex and where you stand. And if you've started, then that's great.
If you don't want to have sex(and that's if he does want you to go through and do it), then try to explain it to him, although you shouldn't have to do so. Just b/c you won't sleep w/ him doesn't mean that he'll sleep w/ someone else. You know your man and what he will and won't do. If you're worried, talk to him about it and show good faith. But most importantly, don't feel forced to put his needs before your own in order to maintain a relationship, which is a two-way street. Your needs, desires, principles/beliefs, should come before anything, including this relationship. Otherwise you're sacrificing yourself for him. It's your choice, all of this. Listen to your heart. I hope I was some help. Good day to you.
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