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Q: My mom is like addicted to alcohol. Every weekend, when she is off work, she has like a 12-pack of beer. Some times less; some times more. Even when she is working, on occasion she'll sneak in a few beers before work or after. And she never finds the time to spend time with the family. She makes promises she'll skip a weekend, or a day at least, to do something "as a family" but she ends up getting drunk when she gets home from work on Friday. She breaks my heart so much when she makes promises, then breaks them. I do know alcoholism is [like] a disease that's hard to cure, but is there anything I can do to help her??

She knows the long-term side effects, like liver disease and other problems. She knows she has a problem, but she is always denying it. And there are times when she does gets drunk she gets violent. I CAN'T turn her in or anything, because then my dad would kill me. But just personally, what can I do to help her?

Thanks

My Dad is like that - a 24 pack in two days usually.

Talking does not help, the other parent does not help - it won't stop until the abuser knows its a problem and WANTS to change.

Things I did: I did talk to Mom and let her know that she gets drunk too much. I told her that if I found anything in the house, I will drain it and throw it away. She threatened to call the cops on me when I said that (which wouldn't work - throwing away drinks is not illegal), she threatened to kick me out (which she'll get in trouble. I was a minor at that time and she is ultimately responsible for me), she threatened not to cook/feed/clothe me (which, by then I was doing all that myself)

Eventually, there was no liqour in the house and she stayed out to drink instead.

When she does get violent - leave. Do not allow yourself in that situation. Call a friend, take a walk or goto the neighboors.