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I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months now. I couldn't love him more. There's this little problem though: he doesn't have a job. He quit his job back in November and is barely even trying to get a new one. He used to be a cashier, so he refuses to apply at any job that deals with serving people in general. It bugs the hell out of me that he won't get off his ass, suck it up, and get a job. He needs the money and we both know it. I bug him about getting a job everyday and he just tells me not to worry and he'll take care of it. He told me yesterday he was getting a new gaming system and that just made me thing "Wow. Now you can put off getting a job even longer."
He doesn't ask me for money and I don't lend it to him, but I get upset when we can't go out as much as we used to because he doesn't have any money and I can't pay every time. I'm worried that he'll always be this irresponsible and he won't be able to help support our kids when we get married.
I don't know if I should just leave him and tell him to call me when he gets a job or just sit tight, be supportive, and keep my mouth shut. I love him and I'd do anything to help him out, but this is getting ridiculous. What would you do? (link)
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If i didnt help you then i shouldnt of got a higher rating...Idont believe in that kind of thing..I just thought you were being nasty so i got defensive.Which is what we shouldnt do ..i guess other attitudes are starting to rub off on me but its not your fault
what are you talking about i dont care about the rating...but what made me lash back was the snotty tone of i know what love is thank you very much...im just being truthful..wheter you agree or not...
edit-if your going to get that easily offended you shouldnt ask...i can only go by what you told me..
it doesnt sound like it and i wasnt saying you said he had to be rich but this kindof thing happens if you truly loved him you wouldnt consider breaking it off over something so little...you would just be irritated...unconditional love is needed in marriage..i dont care if you changed the rating..im being truthful...get off your high horse...you either love him and stick with him..no matter what...wow you sound like such a prize...(sarcastic)if its that big of a problem then maybe hes not right for you...you should base your entire future on one event...are you guys even engaged...do you have the wedding planned and to say for him to call you when he gets a job..if your really thinking about marriage then your in it for the highs and lows
Its not like hes asking you for money but if it was real love youd love him if he lived in a card board box....material thing dont matter as long as you have eachother..its called unconditional love and if your thinking about breaking it off over something like that then you need to consider your idea love..its not like this guy is using or abusing you..and before you think about marriage you need to understand that means love through thick and thin despite his carrer,cash flow,e.t.c .
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Rating: 3
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I know what love is thank you very much. I just don't confuse it with responsibility. Money is important to some extent. I'm not saying he has to be rich, though.
edit-I'm not offended. I'm sorry if I upset you I was just saying how I felt. I gave you the rating you deserve. If that bugs you, don't have an advice column. Insulting me doesn't help anything. You told me how you felt, I appreciate the help, but I disagree on some terms.
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