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I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 20. (I'm a girl by the way)We've been together for about 4 1/2 months and I love him so much. I think i'm ready to take the next step with him, and by that I mean sex. I'm a virgin still and he knows that, so he's never pressured me into doing anything with him I wasn't ready for. He's been really sweet and understanding.However I can also tell it's hard for him. I'm kind of the first girl he's really commited to, he used to be ...I don't know how to put it, a player. Although he never pressures me to have sex with him I can tell he's been getting kind of frustrated. I mean when things get to intimate (I'll put it that way) I'll just stop so things don't escalate further than I want to go. I want to take the next step with him but i'm scared, for more than one reason. I'm scared that he'll compare me to other girls or leave me for someone more experianced if I do. He's been with tons of girls. I'v had 4 or 5 boyfriends, but I never once thought of having sex with them. It wasn't serious enough. I'm afraid that the morning after things will be wierd and akward, and i'm also scared that it will hurt. How much does it hurt when you first have sex? Should I talk to him. Is 4 months to soon to be thinking about sleeping with another person. I'm really confused on what to do here if you can't already tell. Please help!

You are asking a very serious question. I will start by saying if you are ready for it, and have thought about all of what might come of this, then no worries. As for how long is too soon, that all depends on the two people. No one can seriously say it it's too early for something like that for you. You can't worry about him comparing you to others if he's really committed to you. I understand that he's been with a few people, but apparently you seem to believe he's ready to be true to you and only you. Just take the time to think all of this through as far as what might be the consequences.

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