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First of all, I'm 18 and if you're going to tell me I'm too young to get married don't bother answering. I'm very mature for my age and my fiance (Eric) and I have been together since we were 14 and 17. Anyways, Eric proposed to me in March of 2006. He is in the Navy, and he is living in Virginia. Right now, I'm still living in Michigan. I'm moving down to live with him in May. On June 9th we were planning to go to the Jusice of Peace and elope. We're doing this so that we can save our basic housing money (from being married) to spend on our cerimonial wedding that we plan on having on virginia beach sometime in august 2008. This is the wedding all our friends and family will attend.
The only problem, is that my mother is going psycho on me and keeps telling me not to get married. She says I'm too young, and that I'm going to ruin my life. She also says if we go toa Justice of Peace and get married she wont pay for ANYTHING for our cerimonial wedding next year, because she feels people should only get married one time.
Now I'm in a sticky situation. I really want to get married this summer so I can afford things easier and I know I should follow my heart; but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my mom. I KNOW I'm going to marry Eric, I couldn't picture my life without him.. I just wish my mom could see that and that she could see how happy we make eachother and accept our choices. What do you think I should do?! =( (link)
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first of all your an adult so i would hope that you would be mature and its your life and really noone elses business what you do. who are they? if you want to get married you should do it your mom will eventually accept it and get over it. but you might have to hold off on the second marriage or pick up an extra job and pay for it your self. since your a mature adult which i 100% agree with that you should be able to pay for what you want and take care of what you need.when you do that then people might reconize you more as an adult when your taking care of your own business and you might get more support. if it was me i would just not care what anyone thinks because theyre just being negative and why should you base your life on their opinion. but if you want to get married now which i see no problem with then you might have to put off the second wedding until you can afford it ,do it somewhere else thats cheaper, or pick up an extra job or two so you can afford it.i dont think you should let your mothers difficulties interfere with your decision if that is whats going to make you truly happy then so it be her own issue. you shouldnt be scared of how someones going to act towards you when it comes to making your own personal decision that really doesnt effect them.but it is your mothers choice not to pay anything and your going to have to respect that if your going to do things your way.if your mom lets this ruin you twos relationship then thats her loss because its not hurting anyone and its your life not your moms or anyone elses. ever heard the saying if you want something done you gotta do it your self..well that might be the case...personally i think thats the best way to do something..that way noone can say their entitled to imput in your life. if you and your mom are close and love eachotherthen it shouldnt do any damage to your relationship that cant be repaired.
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thank you so much, you are the first person who has ever given me the advice i wanted to hear. usually, everyone tells me the opposite & this has really helped my decision.
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