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Age: 21
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I'm 22, F: Last semester I had a class with this one guy that I really like. He's very kind, outgoing and smart. I'm drawn to his personality. To make a long story short, I only "talked" to him a couple times, and even then, I didn't really feel myself...not because he's uncomfortable to be around, but because I feel so shy and akward when I'm really attracted to someone. When I feel comfortable, i open up and have tons of things to say, but getting to that point is the problem.
Anyway, today I saw him on campus and we talked a lot, but I felt so jittery. He's so outgoing, and I felt like I was talking a lot too, but I felt like something was holding me back from really speaking up. At times I was outgoing and comfortable, but I felt like I had persistent butterflies.
So, how do you open up to someone of the opposite sex? Any tips as to how I can be more confident, relaxed, and myself are appreciated :) (link)
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Hey there,
It's funny, I read your question and it could have been me writing it. I had this exact problem with a guy, and I've got one piece of advice (which you're already sort of following):
Don't let him get away! I don't mean this guy necessarily, but any guy you feel attracted to (especially if you're "drawn to his personality" as you put it).
I'm nearly 22 and I've spent the last 8 months trying to get this great guy who I met in one of my classes out of my head. And now I'm pretty sure he's graduated and I'll probably never see him again.
Just ignore the butterflies and go for it! The kind of guy you want to attract won't be put off by your nerves, he'll be flattered. At least that way you won't regret your inaction later as I do.
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You're so right! I don't want to look back and wonder "what if." Thanks so much for the feedback :)
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