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Q: Ok, this is going to be a long one. How do you summarize a few months of covert thoughts? I can only describe what happened with this one girl like this- I fell in love with her. I feel it's a very, very good match for me.. the only problem being that I could jeopardize our friendship (we developed a surprisingly close friendship). Now there's another potential partner who I think is very attractive, but she's too old for me (I'm 15, she's 18), who I really don't want to hurt, but I don't think it'll work out. However, we have confessed feelings for eachother- I only confessed mine after she confessed hers.. I have problems with showing PDA and trust issues. What steps should I take to (a) minimize damage and (b) end up with someone who works? I haven't typed in HALF of what's needed for this question, but upon prompt I will gladly fill in the blanks. Thank you.
i think, first of all, you should talk to a. drop hints&stuff, and if she doesn`t get it, just tell her straight up, most girls like that better. as for choice b, i don`t see what good can come of that. first of all, she`s much older and at that age where she might ask for some things you don`t want to give. second of all, legally, it`s illegal and she can be put in jail for that and will be tried as an adult. third of all, if she`s a senior, she`s going to college next year, and if she`s already in college, well, that`s not any better. besides, you say you really like choice a, so you should really pursue her because you never know what could happen. i guess you could try choice b, but like i said, i don`t see what good can come of it.

I think you're right. I don't want to hurt B- this could hurt her doubly. I'll ease off of her, and mention easing off her to choice A. however, choice A could be swooped up at any moment. I am going to keep dropping hints to A. Thank you for your help!!

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