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I'm a vegan. I like glam rock and androgynous males. I have two cats. they're mystical beings. I'm going to college in less than a month.

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Okay, I like my guy friend alot, maybe even love, im not sure. He's always flirty and touchy feely with me, but he seems to be like that with other girls too, so maybe it's just how he is. Sometimes though I notice that when other girls are around he pays a little more attenton to me. Im not sure though, you know? So many really pretty girls talk to him, and I get really jealous. Is there anything I can do (discretley) to show him how I feel? I have to be kind of secretive because we're always around our best friends, and they have no idea I have any feelings for him whatsoever.

thanks so so much.

there are a few problems with your predicament. first, you can't show him you like him in a subtle way without every other friend of yours picking up on it. and if he doesn't pick up on it and they all do you run the risk of becoming a joke. also, if he's not interested he might subtley push you away, but you may not catch that either and become laughed at by all of your friends.

in cases such as these, you should always be direct. even if your friends are there as witnesses, they should be close enough to you that you don't care. everyone will know eventually and down the road you'll end up laughing at the whole situation if it goes badly. it's really not hard to be direct. even if you just pull him aside to tell him it's better than not telling him or being subtle. if you're older (say 16-20ish) you could even just kiss him when all your friends are together if the moment comes up.

whatever you choose to do, if you don't think it'll be awkward then it won't be.

best of luck.

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(Rating: 5) you helped alot, thank you
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