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Last Update: February 1, 2007
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18/F
Ok I work with Shauna and we have a lot of fun at work. She used to be one of the people, among a few, at work that I work really well as a team with. On days with her, both our performances were up.
She's very attractive by typicals standards; blonde, blue eyed etc. She is also a lesbian, but that doesn't stop her from flirting with men around work for her benefit.
At our work party, I was pretty plastered and I expressed to another workmate about how disgusting it was that she was sleazing around like that and it was degrading to all lesbians everywhere who have to try so hard to gain acceptance etc. She was within hearing range and I knew she was but it didn't stop me from saying it. Later on, I apologized and we laughed it off.
Another coworker approached me yesterday and told me that she's been telling workers that I'm in love with her and am jealous or something of the guys she flirts with. She's keeps hinting at how good we are working together and making crude jokes (jokes we used to make before except now she's more vulgar and specific). She's also told someone else that she wants to ask me out.
Okay, now I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings and tell her I'm not a lesbian and what I said at the party didn't mean anything. She has a tendency to take things very personally and not being able to think rationally. She also has a very quick temper. Any advice at all? (link)
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If you want to approach her and talk to her about this, first I'd try apologizing to her for what you said, for saying she sleazed around and all that, and tell her you were drinking and wouldn't have said it otherwise. Tell her that you don't want to offend her, or strain the amicable work relationship that you once had.
If things go well up to that point, then you can segue into what she has been saying that you find vulgar, and if it has to do with the two of you hooking up (and you aren't bi/lesbian and into it) just tell her the two of you aren't going to happen, even though she might very well already know. Just because you two aren't compatible sexually, doesn't mean the two of you can't work together in comfort and friendship.
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Thank you, but as I said in my question, I already apologized to her
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