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Well to start out with I`m a 16/female.
My boyfriend is 24 years old.
My parents are fine with our relationship, so yeah.
Today we were hanging out, and I got really mad at him for a dumb reason. So then he told me he didn`t think that things could work. I started crying & eventually fell asleep. When I woke up he told me he had taken 12 anxiety pills, which could potentially put him into a coma.
I could've care less about that, I was more worried about myself and I felt bad for me because I hated the fact that he had broken up with me. We then went to a coffee house to watch his friends band play. I was still crying, I couldn`t help myself.
I stormed out, to call my best friend because I needed to tell someone what had happened. Then him & friend came out of the coffee house & said, "Hey Mari we have to go now!" I was like "What's going on now?" Mikes friend had told Mikes mother & brother about it, so like we had to go back to Mike`s apartment. They told me I had to go upstairs while everyone talked, which was fine.
His mother drove me home, and I didn`t get to say good bye to Mike. :[ She was saying how me & him should stop seeing each other, because it`s not a good time for him to be in a relationship & I`m causing him way too much stress.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Oh my gosh, I`m so confused. I`d appreciate any response.
Thanks in advance, =] (link)
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You probably don't want to hear this, but it sounds to me like his mom has a point. You said it yourself, you couldn't care less about the damage he had possibly done to himself, you were just concerned about yourself and the fact that you just got broken up with. That sounds to me like a major sign of immaturity and selfishness--which isn't something that someone with the issues he obviously has (I'm guessing depression, at the very least) needs to be dealing with on top of everything else. Not to mention, as others have pointed out, the age gap IS going to come between you. No matter how mature you may be for your age, how much you may love each other, etc., the fact is, you're still far less mature than someone his age. That's inevitable.
So, in a nutshell...I agree. Still be friends with him if you want to and can make it work, but it doesn't sound like either one of you are ready for a relationship with the type of person the other is at this point.
Like I said, you probably don't want to hear it, but I have to be honest. I wish you the best of luck.
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You`re right, I didn`t want to hear it. But it`s something I had to hear. Thank you.
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