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Q: Ok so my friends do these things they call bashings. It's where we sit in a circle and tell esch other what we don't like each other. I hate it i think it's ridiculous casue i feel like their trying to stream line me so i'm some form of perfect friend robot.
They say it's so we don't talk behind each others back. Whenever i say i think it's stupid and it hurts me they just say i'm so sensitive and can't handle critism.
What do you think is it a good idea or stupid?
What should i do?

You're right - its stupid and demeaning. There is a difference between criticism and constructive criticism. They're just giving cristicism - and that doesn't help anyone.

Saying I don't like you because you're always late. It makes me feel ____ and ____. You should do ______ is better than saying I don't like you because you're lazy and late all the time.

Yeah, stay away from that.