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Hi, I am Jennifer
I am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥

advice

My dear boyfriend and I have been starting to get into s&m recently. Last night he tells me to open my mouth and shut my eyes and then HE SPITS IN MY MOUTH! Luckily I caught it before it got in my mouth. I washed my faced while letting off a string of expletives. He apologized. We finished having sex. He apologized some more. I kept bringing it up and he kept apologizing.

Recently I have been putting unnecessary guilt trips on him and now I notice and trying to stop. Which brings me to my question, how does one politely tell their partner that now they are revolted by the idea of sex with them due to an action they apologized for and said they never would do again (and agreed that if they do said action again, castration would even be reasonable)?

That is just... wow... that is just... what kind of sick mind would think of spitting in your mouth while having sex?!
Well, stop making him feel any more guilty (and probably embarassed) about it. But if he starts showing you he wants to have sex again or if he tells you he wants to, tell him, "Sorry, I don't feel like it." Don't tell him it's because of the spitting incident though.
If he asks you why, that's when you give him the honest answer, "I don't mean to hurt your feelings or anything, and I know you said you would never do it again... but I'm still grossed out about you trying to spit in my mouth so just give me time to get over it." Try not to be harsh

hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. Your advice is sensible and practical, especially considering the situation.
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