about

Hi, I am Jennifer
I am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥

advice

Ok, summary. I'm 23 years old, smart, mature, grounded, and I think I'm pretty and have a great sense of humor. The problem is I have such a hard time attracting guys. I could be thinner...but what I don't understand is, I have a friend who's younger than me by a couple of years and it's like she jumps from one guy to the next.

We're a lot alike, except I'm not really into the partying scene anymore and I don't have a lot of baggage as far as my past goes. It's pretty clean, cut, 2 serious boyfriends and that's it. She has a lot of baggage. Am I doing something wrong?

She's my friend and I think she's great, but I'm just confused as to what she's got that I don't. I personally (and I'm not the only one) don't think she's prettier than I am. I know she's got more confidence than I do. But I'm not the kind of person to just walk in and be all up in someone's face, I'm very down-to-earth and laid back. She's still in the partying scene, while I'm getting out of that and I'm wanting to find a relationship that's not all about partying. Am I lacking an important relationship quality?

I'm in college, work full-time (Monday-Friday), go to church, outgoing, friendly, good sense of humor...
Someone help me because I'm really beginning to second guess myself.

Well, maybe you are pretty, but you know, looks aren't everything. Sounds like you look really good, but that's not all that guys look for. I personally don't think it's the baggage that got the guys hooked on her, but her spicy personality. Your friend is a wild party animal, so it's easy for guys to spot her.
I'm not saying, "You should be like her! What are you doing with your butt in front of the computer?! Start partying like you've never partied before!" No. What I'm saying is, maybe you should start approaching the guys. Do something to get their attention, but don't lose your personality. I think guys would like going out with girls like you. The problem is, they don't see you. Show off your beauty without being slutty. Show off your humor without looking like a clown.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

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(Rating: 5) Thanks! I'm not like a hot, model....but I'm just trying to have confidence in myself - that I've lacked for about 2 years now. I think my personality kicks butt. My guy friends tell me I'm marriage material, not dating material. :/
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