Member Since: December 14, 2006
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Last Update: December 22, 2006
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Ok, summary. I'm 23 years old, smart, mature, grounded, and I think I'm pretty and have a great sense of humor. The problem is I have such a hard time attracting guys. I could be thinner...but what I don't understand is, I have a friend who's younger than me by a couple of years and it's like she jumps from one guy to the next.
We're a lot alike, except I'm not really into the partying scene anymore and I don't have a lot of baggage as far as my past goes. It's pretty clean, cut, 2 serious boyfriends and that's it. She has a lot of baggage. Am I doing something wrong?
She's my friend and I think she's great, but I'm just confused as to what she's got that I don't. I personally (and I'm not the only one) don't think she's prettier than I am. I know she's got more confidence than I do. But I'm not the kind of person to just walk in and be all up in someone's face, I'm very down-to-earth and laid back. She's still in the partying scene, while I'm getting out of that and I'm wanting to find a relationship that's not all about partying. Am I lacking an important relationship quality?
I'm in college, work full-time (Monday-Friday), go to church, outgoing, friendly, good sense of humor...
Someone help me because I'm really beginning to second guess myself. (link)
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i suggest doing some volunteer work and/or other activities that are fulfilling. maybe you'll meet a potential significant other while volunteering. Do you see guys in church who catch your eye? try making eye contact and smiling. i wouldn't worry about guys not talking to you at the bar...chances are these guys are less available emotionally and aren't ready to settle down.
you mentioned that you could be thinner and seem less confident than your friend. you may want to join a gym and take some classes there- this is both a good way to gain confidence and meet people.
i consider being marriage material to be a good thing. i'd ask your friend for more feedback as to what he considers dating material. empathize w/ 23 year-old boys...most want sex and will put in the least work necessary. in turn, many give their attention to a wild girl b/c 1. there is less fear of rejection, 2. a greater likelihood that she'll get drunk and give it up and 3. is less work than a girl who happens to be marraige material.
i wouldn't beat myself up about this. perhaps you intimidate these guys.
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Thanks =) I'm already going to a gym...I work out religiously, but I can never seem to be satisfied. I'm a woman, ya know =)
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