Hello,

Can you talk about your feelings with them? Have you discussed birth control options and what you would do if the young lady became pregnant? Can you spend time with them outside of having sex? Do you love the other person? Do you enjoy their company?

If you can't (or won't) say 'yes' to the above, why would you have sex with them? People don't often talk about the emotional ramifications afterwards - suppose you (or the other person) found someone else next week? Or if you received an STD? What would you do? Those things could all happen.

If you can say yes to the above and you're not feeling pressured to have sex, tread carefully anyhow. Make certain both of you want to share in this experience. Use condoms and don't be under the influence.

Gracefully,
Cavatica

thank you! =] this really helps! you're great at giving advice! xO

Welcome to my advice column!

I am Cavatica, 35 years young, and live in New England.

My family and friends - God bless them! - consider me compassionate, caring, and empathetic. It took me many years to realize the importance of loving myself and being true to my beliefs and values.

As someone famous once said - *Act Worthy of Yourself.* Please do.

~ Cavatica

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