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Okay, I'm gonna say sorry for some of the words I'll be using but anywhos.
You know when you say like negro [sp] or nigger to an african american or call everyone from south american mexicans (which means you're ignoring their individuality) it's considered racism and rude and hateful remarks using vitriolic words? Well, when people call someone form south korea a chinese or japanese, that's considered racism too. It's saying that all the individual countries are not important enough for them to acknowledge them as seperate places.
It's really hurtful to the person recieving these racist remarks like me. I'm from south korea and there's this girl that keeps on calling me chinese or japanese and makes fun of me by saying japanese or chinese--or at least attmepting to say them--and pretend like i'm from that country and sometimes she carries it on by saying "DO YOU UN-DER-STAND?" in slow mo as if I wouldn't understnad it if she talked like a normal person. She keeps on calling me "chinese girl" and today she even said to her friends--who I do not know-- "Oh this is that little chinese girl that I was talking about" in a really rude tone.
I've experienced racism since I got to US which is in 4th grade and I'm still experiencing it everywhere I go and I'm in 9th grade right now. No one understands that being racist against a person is really hurtful and they won't know because they haven't experienced it. I've told her that she may think it's funny but it really isn't and i've said some things that I shouldn't have. But I really can't take this anymore because she's geting her friends to join in against this ridiculous thing against me and I'm really just about to cry and I don't know what to do.
I can't ignore her because then she goes onto say "Oh, that chinese girl is deaf" or something like that and it's just hard not to get upset over it. My friend knows this and she saw me almost cry several times within the last week. What do I do about this situation? I don't wanna do what she's doing to me and I don't want to sink down to her level. Suggestions? (link)
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I'm having a hard time putting this into words w/o this becoming too long. I have no doubt you are hurt and offended by what she has said, but I have my doubts that she is herself racist and not simply a mean-spirited teenager that is simply having a field day being able to elicit reactions ranging from anger to crying by simply using 'racist' terms. Is she mean and spiteful? From what you've said, yes. Racist? Thats a harder call. While its a fine-line between being ignorant and simply saying things to hurt someone else, and truly being racist, there is a line. She might just KNOW that these things hurt your feelings, and as many teens can be incredibly wicked and cruel, she is saying these things for no other reason than to be mean. Just like many teens call each other 'Gay', or 'Fat', or 'Ugly', the list goes on and on - if there is something that will hurt your feelings, chances are someone will say it to you at some point.
I would bring this up not only for your sake, but for hers as well. You simply fighting with her will reinforce the racist terms and ideas, and that will be counter-productive. Get your parents involved, then the school.
I would advise you consider doing 2 things. First, talk to your parents and discuss going to school officials. Your parents are perhaps the fist people you should go to, bar none, in something like this. If your parents feel that the school should be contacted, then you can go to that next step with your parents, and I assure you they carry far more weight with school officials than you do alone.
Second, I would advise that you try to ignore this girl, and try not to take these comments to heart. First, no matter where you go in life, you'll likely end up running into this kind of thing at some point or another, and you will have to deal with it over and over. If you let it bother you overly much, or at the very least LET OTHER PEOPLE SEE THAT IT BOTHERS YOU, you are in for a very long road in life. There is simply a lot of mean, cruel people that will say anything to hurt you emotionally. You don't have to like them, you don't have to respect them, but if you let them see you cry or be hurt, then they'll know you are vulnerable and they'll do it again, and again, and again. I'm not saying that you should cower and run, what I am saying is to hold your head high and don't let them see that you can be brought low by the words they use.
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I can distinguish between mean and racism and trust me this is it. Most people don't know what it's like to have racist things thrown at them because they haven't recieved it and never will. It's really hard to get it through to people that what they're saying is really harsh to a person that's from another country living in another. She isn't like this to any of her other [caucasian [sp?]] friends. She knows me and some other people from other countries and she is just as cruel to them as she is to me yet she never says a vitriolic word to her caucasian friends. I've tried to not let it bother me but when she says "That chinese bitch is deaf" or something like that, it's hard
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