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there is this guy that i think i like (he treats me how i wanted to be treated).but i also heard rumors in school about him that he cheated on his ex girlfriend in the past. I asked him about it and he told me that he did and that was because he hated his girlfriend. He says he likes me and always wants to hang out but i always tell him he cant come over and i cant leave my house. I tell him that because im the kind of girl who gets attached to easy to everything. i wanna hang out with him and be with him but im scared because of the rumors. we talk all the time on the phone and he tells me all kinds of sweet things that makes me smile thats what makes me like him. What if we do go out and he leaves for Oklahoma n January? What am i going to do without him? and no i hate long distance relationships.
well my questions are..
1)should i believe the rumors?
2)how can i hang out with him without getting attached?
3)if he leaves and we are together how could i handle that? or should i even go out with him? (link)
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Ok well first off, rumors are rumors, and you said he owned up to them so hes not lying about cheating on his girlfriend. I would be really paranoyed if i had a boyfriend that cheated on a girl in the past. and for what i know, if you like him, the more your around him will just make you like him more. For example, I like this guy in one of my classes and when i see him i just start liking him more and more. I think IM and the phone are your best bet. or hanging out in groups of friends could keep you from getting as attached then you would if it were just you and him. Its hard when a boyfriend leaves and your still dating. Its not that long distance relationships dont work out, its just theres so much stress that goes into them. People get paranoyed, they start missing their boyfriend/girlfriend and feel really lonely and theres nothing they can do about it so they feel helpless. It really all depends on you, if he likes you and you like him you can probably give it a shot and then hanging out wouldnt be a problem. but like i said, him leaving would be really hard. It all matters on how much pain you can handle. The pain of not knowing what would happen, or the pain of knowing and something bad happening, like cheating or moving away. But if i were you, I would take the risk, a broken heart almost always heals. good luck!
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