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Hello. If you need advice, you can count on me. I am particularly good at anything dealing with Relationships, Lonerism, School pressures, social pressures, finding oneself, and technology, but I can take a stab at any topic. Feel free to ask the person that has been dubbed by several people "the next Dr. Phil".
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Alright, well.
Me and this girl recently met and we became like, instant best friends. She calls me whenever she needs me, I call her whenever i need her, so on and so forth. And we have a cool time together whenever we hang out and she lets me know I'm her best friend.
But whenever we're hanging out with 1+ people, I know it sounds sort of selfish, but I feel ignored. I'm not an attention whore or anything, but I'd still want SOME acknowledgement from my best friend that I'm alive, you know? I don't know if it's cause me and her hang out so much it's like a breath of fresh air or what, but I've tried limiting space for a week or so now and we finally hung out tonight, and it still happened. I had to tell her three times I was leaving cause her and our friend were talkign to eachother. I just feel unimportant and unacknowledge whenever we all hang out together, so I just wonder, why bother inviting me to hang out with the two of you at all, you know?
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Like I know I could try talking to her, but is there anything else?
Get in the conversation. Your friend wants you to hang out with her and her friends, so join in on the festivities. Friends chat indepentantly for random amounts of time, so it a converstation with a group of friends, not everyone can be speaking or being spoke to at the same time. If your friend does this quite often on a regular basis like she'll talk with her friend the entire time there, then next time in private you could say something about it. You can always chime in in the conversation though about whatever topic that might be being talked about. If you do say something about it to her, try not to say it in a way that she'll probably take it as you're an attention whore or that it might affect whether or not you hangout with her and her friend(s).
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I've tried getting in the conversation, but it can tend to be inside jokes between them sometimes and whatnot. But I'll still try harder. Thanks so much.