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first off, this may be long so i apologize but i hope people will help me outa bit.
we are both twenty years old.
i've been with my boyfriend for a little over four years. even though we broke up in february we still act like we're still together. basically, its like we're bf/gf without the label but it's like everyone including myself still consider us together anyway. kind of confusing, sorry. anyway, the problem between me and him is that even though we dont have the label that he feels that it's okay for him to talk to other girls. which i can understand at some extent.. however, i feel as though even if we dont have the label that he's my boyfriend and vice versa. if im the girl sleeping in his bed for weeks straight at a time, the girl he calls and texts every few hours when we aren't together just to ask what im doing, the girl who he takes out on dates on the one day out of the week he's not working, the girl who hangs out with his mom and other family members when he is or isn't around, the girl he tells that he loves every night before he goes to bed, IM HIS GIRLFRIEND. and the list goes on. we've talked and argued about this so many times already and it always ends the way it always does with him saying that he loves me, that he's in love with me, that im the woman he wants to marry and the woman he wants to have his children with (although that will not be any time soon) but he's not ready to be committed at this age and that he is going to talk to other girls regardless. okay. maybe i seem dumb or something but some days im just like okay whatever, im content because i know that even if he may be talking to another female, i'm still his number one and that he will never put another girl before me. other days it just bothers the hell out of me.. i just feel like if i'm the woman he loves and wants to be with in the future, why do something to ruin the chances of what we may have? i know people may say "girl, he doesn't love you." i'm not being naive when i say this but i know he's in love with me, but he feels he's just at the age where he's just not ready to commit yet. people tell me that just having the label is too much for a person to deal with. i dont know.. him and i, we honestly have two different outlooks on almost everything (and i love that) and i'm here trying to understand his point of views with what you guys think about all of this. i'm sorry i am babbling.. i'm just very in love and very confused and everything in between. your advice and comments are most definitely appreciated. thankss so much. (link)
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YOU may be in love but trust me, hes NOT. If her really "loved" you then ask yourself this... Why is he with other girls? I know its hard to take it in but if he isnt ready for commitment, SO WHAT! He can still go out with you just not marry you yet. That doesn't mean he should be able to have fun with other girls just because he "isn't ready to commit". If he loves you he'll AT LEAST go out with you. You shouldn't get hurt over a guy that doesn't care that you are alone and he's with other girls. You should go find yourself a better guy that WON'T leave you out in the cold for other girls. He might ACT like he loves you, but a guy that LOVES you would never leave you for other girls. I hope you think about it carefully before making the mistake of marrying the guy that used to be with so many girls because he "wasn't ready for commitment." I hope this helps you.
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