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Sorry I have absolutley no idea what subject to put this under...
I'm 16/f. One of our family friends comes over a lot to our place. He's about 50 and smokes pot and drinks from very early in the morning to when he goes to bed. He's not drunk often because he's used to it. He always looks like he's gonna kiss me and always give me hugs. He grabs my ass and rubs my legs and stuff. I'm not scared of him or what he'll do because I can stand up for myself. Yesterday he was pretty drunk when he came over, I've never seen him like that and when he kept hugging me it felt like he had an erection. He kept showing me dirty stuff on his cell phone infront of my parents who are pretty protective of me and I was so embarrassed. We both have camera phones and he was taking a photo of me and when he took it I saw it slip down a bit so he took a photo of my breasts and saved it. He always makes comments like "that's a nice necklace" or "I like that shirt on you" so he can stare at my breasts. Whenever I say something like about my appearance he grabs me around the waste and whispers that im "f***ing gorgeous". What do you think I should do? I don't want to tell anyone because I think he's harmless and he's a family friend.
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OMG this is a loser of the worst kind! I can't believe the nerve of some people! Family friend or not, harmless or not, tell your parents to pitch this guy out on his a**!You had me at 50! That is just sick ! Honestly the man wouldn't have to worry about ever getting another erection if he had ever touch me !His behavior is completely unacceptable and I would make this clear to my family. It is not fair for you to have to be subjected to a feely pervert just because he is a friend of the family. If I was there I would bust his face for you!He has no right to ever touch you (without invitation) or , speak to you in such a manner I don't care who he is . Situations like this burn me up because believe me girl I have been there ! I feel what you are going through!If you don't want to make an anoucement to your family (as strongly as I wish you would, as much as I suggest you do) find someway to not be around when he is present if possible. Make plans to stay somewhere else or maybe go out with friends . Furthermore just to burst his bubble, tell him how he makes you feel! Tell him that you don't want him touching you like this ! To keep his nasty thoughts to himself! Tell him to hug himself !
Get em Girl!
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Oh, thankyou so much. I didn't realise how much I really need to do something about this, Thankyou. I think I'll take both options...to tell my parents and to also try not to be around when he is. You're absolutley right; he has no right to do that to me - drunk or not. Thanks so much again. I'll do something about it; don't you worry!
By the way, I love your column! =)
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