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Months ago my ex-bestfriend (was my best friend) started a fight with me, (to make the story short), and ever since that we haven't spoke to each other, which has been now 4 months.

I am currently hanging out with a new crowd of people. Some I have known for awhile before my ex-friend and I am happily getting along with them, and never think about my old friendship. I feel confident that I don't need her and I feel like I am much stronger without her.

However, every time she walks by I get this "adrenaline-rushed" feeling that she might go up to me and go off on me, because she is the kind of person that would. I don't know why I get that way, when I feel soo much better without her, and that when she isn't around I could care less what she has to say. Maybe deep down I am afraid of her? Although when she is not around I feel like she is nothing that she is just a waste of time and thought. And it changes when she is nearby.

I am one of those people who don't like to fight and get up in front of someone's face and "tell it like it is". I use alternative ways such as negotiating or just ignore the person. So, what I am asking is, how can I deal with this "adrenaline-rushed" feeling when she is around, and how can I stop it?

Thanks in advance!

I had the same problem with one of my friends...except it turned into an actual fist-fight. We didn't talk for a very long time, which was about 4 months also. The only way I see that you can stop this feeling you get when you're around her is to make-up. You don't have to be best friends like you were before, but it still would feel nice to "clear the air" wouldn't it? That's what me and my friend did, and I personally think it was much easier to be able to walk down the hallway and not have this feeling inside...kind of like the same feeling you had. I don't think that you are afraid of her. Maybe you just want to avoid a huge argument that will only make the situation worse. So my best bet is to make nice and try to be "associates", if not best friends again.

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(Rating: 5) thanks. but she completely hates me and does not want to by my friend ever again, so there's no way of me being her friend. but thanks for your advice. it's a good point.
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