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My name is Kambrey and I am a very oppinionated and strong willed person, however I am also very open-minded to new ways of thinking and others opinions. Being a minority where I live has helped open my eyes to the struggles of others. And since the minority I belong to is a religious one I am also very repectful of others beliefs, life styles and points of view. I know it's hard to be different sometimes, and even harder asking for help when your worried others are judging you. I'm NOT going to judge you. Period. My only purpose is to help. Feel free to hit me with ANY question you need help with! And to anyone reading my column with comments, oppinions or really any constructive critisism PLEASE let me know! Can't wait to hear from you! ~Kambrey
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The guy I've been in love with for 6 years, im sending him one last email before getting over him.. one detail you should know though, I'm seeing him this christmas! he's always invited to our christmas-dinners, so i dont know.. but i need to do this anyways.

so my question is, what should i say in this email? im not confessing my love for him, im just telling him that im deleting my email..and because of that..im sending him an email incase we never ever speak again (even though i know ill see him this christmas) so i have a few things to tell him.. but what exactly should i tell him? i know i wanna wish him good luck now that he's a senior, and i wanna tell him i think he'll go far in life, and to always belive in himself..and that he's meant a lot to me (never actually syaing i have a crush on him) just that i care basically..

so is there anything that's good to say??
thanks

Dear Reader,
I understand how you feel. I too have been totally in love with this guy from work for near 6 years now, so maybe I'll be able to give you a little insight.
Everything that you mentioned you want to say to him is all fine and good but you left out the most important thing that you want for him. ...to be a part of your life. I understand that this is no easy task, but neither will be you wondering "what if" for the rest of your life. For someone to be able to hold on to feelings like that for that long a length of time is extrordinary! A connection like that doesn't come along every day! You NEED to let him know how you feel.
I'm assuming that you are close or have a long history together if he comes over every christmas, chances are that he feels a connection too. And it's not as though if you say something he'll never speak to you again and you'll loose a dear friend because if your severeing all aquintance then it has obviously already become to hard to see him as just a friend anyway.
Look- I know it's easier said then done, and I'm not going to try and tell you that by your honesty he will be blow away and admit his undying love for you. He may, but usually things like this take time. You already have the basis for a strong, lasting relationship by your long-time friendship with him. And your seeing him at Christmas could be perfect timing if you let him know now. It will give him time to mull it over in his head and to sort out his emotions. You've already waited 6 years, will another 2 months really hurt?
All I'm saying is give it one last chance to be what you've been hoping for all this time. If you think he's worth all the love and heart-ache you've put into him then he's certainly worth the truth. It wouldn't be fair to him to not know, if you love him he DESERVES to know.
With my guy, I told him and he told me he has a girlfriend. But when I look into his eyes I can see that he cares, and you know what? I cryed for a week and now I'm fine. I know right now it seems like it could never be fine. -it's seems humiliating and takes a lot of courage but at least you'll know.
If you never know, you'll never get over it. No matter what you tell yourself and who comes into your life, you'll still wonder. And you can't give your whole heart to someone if part of it still belongs to someone else. You need closure.
Just give it a try, I PROMISE you will NOT be sorry.
~Kambrey

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