Member Since: October 3, 2006
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Last Update: October 5, 2006
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ok well i have a huge problem and its that me and my gurl have been dateing for about 5 months now and we are really close i love her more than anything and we are 15 i know i know people say that you cant fall in love when your as younge as us but personally i think thats a bunch of bull shi* but the problem is we are thinking about a kid and we are both really wanting to like BAD so what do you think i should do PLEASE HELP ::..Thanx..:: (link)
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Hi honey. I think you sound like a nice young man and it's great that you have someone you care about so deeply. I think since you love your girlfriend so much, you have to thnk about what is best for HER. If she has a baby now, or even in the next few years, it is going to be really hard on her- even with you around to help. She may have to drop out of school, and she may get a "reputation" or be called names for getting pregnant. It would not be a fun time for her. Then, she'd have to have some maternity leave from school which would hold her back. If she can return to school, she will have a hard time caring for a baby while also doing school. You could help, but you will be in school too, and so you're not going to have that much time or energy. Who would watch the baby while you two are in school? Also, you could not live together yet, so you'd still have to live with your parents, which would mean you'd have to have joint-custody of the baby, and you wouldn't be living together. Think about all those times you'd have to get up every couple hours when the baby cries, and then still get up for school in the morning. And don't even think about dropping out of school, because if you have a baby you're going to need money, and the best way to get money is to finish school and go to college so you can have a real career to pay for your mortgage, electric, gas bills, grocery money, childcare, maybe private schools for the kids or special things for the kids like music lessons and trips to Disney world and all that good stuff you want to be able to provide for your children. My point is, when you think about it, thee's not much you could really do for a baby right now, and you have SO MUCH to look forward to when you have your own family in the future. It just seems smarter to wait until you're financially ready for a child. PS- Do you realize how much diapers cost, and how many diapers you go through in one day?! Trust me, you don't want to deal with that yet!!
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hey thanx that is really good advice but the thing is around here where i live it is possible to move in with someone if you have a baby with them and u can get on a thing called wick wich helps for takeing care of the baby plus at the high school i go to there is a day care in it so i dont have to worry about takeing care of it durin school. but thanx for that info anywayz you really helped
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