Member Since: September 22, 2006
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Okay...so people always talk about mixed signals and all that...
How do you send them on purpose??
Don't tell me not to, just tell me how to do it. I've always been really straightforward and I wanna play a little game with someone...I have to know how to send mixed signals.
I'm a girl, btw. (link)
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As a guy, let me say that whenever I get mixed signals, it makes me think one or more of these thoughts:
1. I am either being played, or I am a joke to someone.
2. This person is a player, and flirts with anyone who has a heartbeat whether she likes them or not.
3. My time is better spent with someone who doesn't...play...games.
4. This woman doesn't know whether to flirt or not, and my time is better spent somewhere else rather than responding to 'mixed signals' that might turn out to be a bust. That, or leaving that woman alone until she gets herself straightened out.
Being a guy I look at this really simply. If a woman likes me, she will flirt. There is no mixed signals. If she doesn't like me, why would she flirt? If a woman flirts, and then when I flirt back I get the cold shoulder...well, that isn't someone I want to waste time and effort on.
Unless the guy KNOWS it is a game, and is open to participating (most men wouldn't), then dont do it. You will be taking an awful chance playing with someone like this, and I myself wouldn't put up with it. Unless, of course, its understood in a relationship as being JUST a game.
I don't know where so many women get their ideas about flirting (this isn't directed at you, but this is in general). I've known women that think its ok to flirt with men whether they are interested or not, giving men all the wrong impressions (They then ask 'why are all these guys trying to date me?'). I've known women who don't know how to flirt, which leads to some sad cases. And then there is this, which just confuses men generally...and many men, when confused, go looking for someone who is more straightforward.
If you like this guy, don't play games. Seriously.
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I might drop a question in your inbox...this is really complicated 'cause we were involved for like, 9 months and he suddenly decided that we spend too much time together, and he's playing games with ME. He actually complained that I dont play with him enough (not like that). If I don't play I'm gonna lose him, but I'm not too good at it 'cause I don't usually play games.
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