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Well i dated a girl about a few years back. we went out for about a year; things happens blah blah blah. well anyways i still like her and i feel the same way. i've always wanted her to be my first but i dont know if that'd...happen.
This other girl, whose really into me. Seems to want the same relationship we have..and inside i feel that i cant replace what we had. But she wants to have sex with me, and i sware i am soo tempted but both the abstinence thing and the girl is stopping me. i dont want to regret anything, all i know for sure is that i want the first girl to be the girl i marry =\
really dramatic but if you can help thanks a million (link)
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well, I have to say you dont get this kind of sentiment from the guys as often as the girls.
MasterFunk's answer, as crude as it is, is a perfect example of the response you might get from a lot of guys. So, don't go dropping this question on guys you know unless you are sure they wont heckle you for years to come.
Whats the deal with the first chick, the one you dated? You might have feelings for her still, but be honest with yourself; if she either isn't willing to be with you again or even sleep with you at all, its a lost cause to hold your virginity for her when nothing is going to happen.
Waiting for the person you are going to marry is a long, lonely road. As crazy as relationships are , you might not even be talking to either of these chicks in a matter of time, and this whole thing becomes moot.
Do one of two things: either be TRULY abstinent and don't sleep with anyone until you are married (then at least you are sure), or drop this whole thing and give the 2nd girl a chance, and just go with it.
Lastly, sex is not love. Love is not sex.
The saying "One in the hand is worth two in the bush" (no pun intended you sickos rofl) is also apt here - you have a girl who is into you, and you dont want to sleep with her in order to save yourself for someone you haven't, or may never, meet. Like I said, if you are going to be absinent do it the whole way, or drop it and be with this 2nd girl. From her point of view, it may not be fair to her to keep some things closed off from her because of this romantic ideal you have.
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very very true, if you can maybe sometime im me
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