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I asked my mom the other night if I could dye my hair black she had replied no and told me she didn't have to give me a reason as to why she said no.
Finally, she still said no but said she would change her mind if I could come up with 20 valid and good reasons as to why she should allow me.
I believe I have 8-10 at this moment.
My main reason is to express individuality because I'm outgoing and charismatic but she just doesn't seem to believe it.
What do I do?
I've been wanting to dye my hair black for at-least 3 years.
I've tried negotiating and I'll be 15 October 5th and it doesn't even seem like a possible present unless I have 20 reasons. (link)
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Most of the time when you get something like this, the person in control purposely puts it out of reach. Your mother just doesn't want you to dye your hair, and my guess is that she doesn't expect you to actually come up with 20 reasons. If she did, she would have asked for 50. Thats a cynical thought, perhaps, but I am being honest.
My guess: that is why she didn't give you her reason; she didn't want to tell you outright "I dont like it, and that is how its going to be. Its my way or the highway". She is a parent, of course she is going to doubt your reasons, her point of view is drastically different. What you might think is cool, might very well be, in her mind, something thats stupid and impulsive. I would advise you to not get your hopes up, you could very well give her 20 reasons and still be told 'NO'. All parents are different so its hard to say, you would be the best judge of that.
To play devils advocate (and possibly sympathize with your mother): Whats wrong with your natural hair color? Your mother might simply be wanting you to be happy with yourself as you are, w/o having to change yourself.
Saying this might get me a negative response, but hey, I'm being honest here.
GL in any event :)
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Thanks, you hit the nail on the head with your answer. She did still say no and I've sortof given up on wanting it black until I turn 16. She said yes to coloring it again what it is now which is 2 shades away from jet black. I think i will just 'accidentaly' pick 1 shade from black this next time.
Thanks again.
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