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Hey there,
It is 4:30 AM where I live. I just couldn't sleep after that horrible experience I had with my mother. We are both obese, and she is fatter than I am.
Here's the story:
I lost a lot of weight during summer vacation in Egypt. Went to the gym, started a healthy lifestyle... Unfortunately, by the end of summer, nobody was taking me to the gym, so since they won't let me go by myself, my body became lazy again.
Summer vacation is now over and we're back in Saudi Arabia. My treadmill is just sitting there, but I'm not encouraged to use it.
I started eating junk food again, and eating chocolate whenever it was available. I have this stupid belief that chocolate makes me feel better, but it's actually making me gain weight!
Anyways, that is not the problem. The problem is that my mother always makes me feel like crap. Although everybody tells me I'm pretty, I can't remember the last time she called me that. What is her problem? Is she jealous because I lost some weight and she didn't?
Also, she keeps making hurtful comments bout my arms and abs and how I should lose weight.
"A girl your age shouldn't have this body," she would say.
Amazingly, I have high self esteem; I find myself pretty, despite the extra pounds. However, my mom is the only person who is perfectly capable of bringing me down.
The only nice thing she said to me was 3 weeks ago: "You lost weight. Keep it up."
Today though, I was trying on a skirt I just bought and it was too tight. She just looked at me as though I were an elephant and said: "Oh my God! Take it off before it rips!"
The weight is not the only issue. She never said "I am proud of you." NEVER!
I totally envy my friend because she told me her mother took her aside and told her how proud she was of her.
I keep asking myself: is my mom the right mom for me? Why does she keep hurting my feelings like that? Does she think I enjoy being fat?
Having high self esteem does not mean I like being fat!
I can't talk to her because she NEVER truly listens. Yesterday I asked for her opinion bout the topic of an article I'm going to write, and she wouldn't take her eyes off the bloody TV! She just says: huh ? what?
Then she accuses me of mal pronunciation!
"What kind of mother are you!?" I heard myself shout. She didn't even react!
So advicenators, don't tell me I should talk to her because she simply talks and never listens.
I am on the verge of crying and can't sleep...
What advice do you have for me?
-Totally devastated. (link)
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wow im sorry to hear about what happend. and no its not normal for your mom to be that way. well my best friends mom is like that and what she did. was she wrote her a note. saying how much her mom really hurt her feelings and all this other stuff. it may work you should try it =)
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