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Q: I don't know what to do and I can't cope so please help me if you can...

The truth is...nobody likes me. I'm not saying that in a 'feeling sorry for myself' way. It's fact. I work in an office where I overhear people bitching about me, where people lie about me and where they arrange nights out and I'm the only one not invited.

I can't do anything about it really because none of it can be proven and my Manager already believes the lies that have gone round about me because he's confronted me about them. There's nobody above him I can go to and I can't leave because I need the money and having looked around, I know I can't get the same anywhere else.

I can't seem to do anything right. Work is bad enough. I try SO hard and have done hours and hours of overtime, which I even refused to accept payment for because of personal reasons but I still mistakes. Constantly.

To make matters worse, I'm a complete failure in all other aspects of my life. I can't keep our home clean. I can't do a whole host of other things I should be able to do and the only things I ever really work at, I fail at and I'm so fed up of being such a loser and a failure that all I can seem to do is cry right now and not stop.

My boyfriend tries so hard to help me cope but I feel so miserable all the time and there's nothing anyone can do because the problem is with ME.

So, I guess my question is, how can I be happier? How can I stop feeling so bad about everything I seem to suck at?? And how do I find people who care about me, because other than my boyfriend, I don't think anyone does.
Unfortunately, when work is bad - it stresses you out in other areas. However, what they are doing is creating a hostile work environment for you (big, no-no), contact the HR department or a notforprofit law agency to help you file a claim.

Next, start looking for another job. Send or fill out 10 applications/resumes a week and one or two will get back to you.

Finally, calling yourself a loser = being a loser. Stop and think about what you DO have going for you. You have an income, where a lot of people don't. You have a caring boyfriend, once again - when many people worry about that too.

As for being happy, recongize who you are - start each day descibing yourself in a positive way. (You're unique, you're good, you're small, you're curvy etc), and you will start to believe it.

Thank you. I know I need to work on being more positive and the rest will follow. I really appreciate your advice. Thank you.

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