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Q: I have a mom tht is a control/protect freak she always wants things her way. I have to have my room the way she wants it my computer has to face the way she wants it and she always says when im with her im on her time and the problem is tht she always wants me to do her stuff. I run to the car, get the mail, take out the garbage(sumtimes), and do everything to care of my dog and she still doesn't appreciate me. She is way over protective. She doesn't like me goin places without her or my dad even tho i end up goin it usually takes hours of fighting and begging and crying. I am tired of her controling my life especially my room. I want my room to be MY room not hers. I like my room messy cuz then it feels like i actually live in it. What should I do? I dnt know how to talk to her cuz she always blocks me off but she never blocks my brother off when he is having problems. I dont get it she always says i have to wait till my dad comes home to discuss what is happeneing When i try to talk to her she takes things away and says she is in control!!!! i hate it she always says i dnt understand anything and i never will. When my brother calls me slut, dunce,bitch, etc. and i tell her she doesn't do anyting about it she just tells him not to and when i do those sort of things she punishes me. i cnt take it anymore HELP MEE!!
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Under her roof, its her laws. Yes, its your room - but she gave it to you.
Things you can do:
First, take control of your emotions. If you can't talk about the situation without yelling or crying, try writing a letter.
Next, write down a list of the chore you do. Is it really too much? Is there something else you can do? Maybe make an arrangment that if you keep your door closed, then you could pick up an extra chore. (I started to do my own laundry to prevent cleaning my room.)
Next, you and your mom need a 'codeword'. If someone is out of control, say the codeword - take a break (a nap, a walk around the block) and get back to the situation.
Finally, grin and bear it. They raised you, they gave you your room and they feed it. In a few years you can be gone and doing things your own way.
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