Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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this might be kind of long but here it goes...
im one of those people who think alot and over analyse things allllll the time and it drives me crazy! the worst is when someone says something to me and i just keep thinking about it in a what if what if what if way. like for example last year before homecoming i was talking to my friend and i was like gosh i need a date who's taller than me and isnt an idiot. so she says why dont you go with (insert name here)?" then i thought about it alot and i started to like him! it always happens, and the latest thing is in one of my classes i was talking to one of my guy friends and this girl says to me: dude you to need to go out already! now for the past 24 hours or so all ive been thinking about is what if we went out? do i like him? does he like me? and it wont stop! i cant just stop thinking, how do you tell yourself, "hey no more thinking!" that doesnt make any sense? it even happens when im sleeping, ill have like 4 different dreams in one night about whatever is bugging me and then when i wake up im exausted!i dont just think about like guys and stuff or anything its school too, im really good at math because i think so much like dont even bother me with the calculator or a formula, i just figure it out by myself. i dont know what to do! but my constant thinking is driving me crazy! please help!!!! (link)
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Hey. Well first of all I want to let you know that it's not a bad thing what you're doing. It's actualyl very good that you can do this and a lot of people have the same problem :). But then again I bet that it's very annoying and hard to concentrate on other things which as you know, isn't good. You pretty much just have to learn to tell your brain to stop and think about other things and after a while you will get out of this habbit. Yes, it's a habbit my friend :). Eventually you will get used to not analyzing everything and it may take some time but before you know it this habbit will decrease more and more. Someone else kind of wrote something simalair to this but in the book A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith a teacher tells the main charecter Francie that instead of telling lies to make things seem more extravagent write them down on paper and write about what if this did happen. Now I know your case is a little different but instead of wasting your time analyzing all day you can write a short paper on the what if's of your thoughts kind of like someone else suggested to you :). Hopefully I helped a little and please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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