I currently work for Nemours Children's Clinic and I work part time for Baptist Medical Center. I have an amazing boyfriend, we have been together for about a year and a half and have a nice place together. I love animals. I am majoring in psychology and love giving advice to people!
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Location: Florida
Occupation: Student/ Baptist Medical Center/ Nemours Children's Clinic
Age: 23
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we are both virgins, and today we were making out and things were getting a little "hot and heavy" so to speak and he told me that the wants to lose his virginity to me. I was a little shocked and didn't know what to say in return, so I said something stupid like "Oh? Really?" and he said "Yes, because I love you and I want to experience everything with you" He is the only boy I've done anything with other then french kissing, and I know that I'm not ready to have sex right now. But I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings when I didn't say anything back to him when he told me. I guess I was afraid that if I told him I wanted to lose my virginity to him [which I do....someday] he would want to have sex right then and there. What should I do? Any advice at all would be wonderful.
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Tell him how you feel. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. Tell him that you aren't ready to have sex yet, but that when the time is right, that you would like to share it with him too. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing, you'll only regret it later. Make sure you are ready and educated enough to make your own desicions. Find out about birth control and discuss with him the posibility of getting pregnant. If you are not comfortable talking to him about intimate things, then honestly, you aren't ready to have sex with him. Think about all the things that come with having sex, like the consequences it can bring. What if you got pregnant or if your parents found out? Also, think about the good things that come with it. It is special and should be shared with someone you're in love with. Your first time shouldn't be something you regret. Once you've thought about all the possibilities and decided to have sex, be open about it and have fun. Talk about it with him and read about it online. When you first start out having sex it can be very confusing and complicated and it can really change things between people. The younger you are, the more complicated it becomes because you experience all these emotions which can be confusing. And how would you feel if something happened between you and your boyfriend and you two broke up? What if he cheated on you? I know that is something that you don't want to think about, but it happens. Also, how would you feel if in 3 or 4 years you found someone who you loved even more than the guy you're with now and you wanted to experience the same thing with him? Would you regret your first time being with the guy you're with now? There's just so much to think about and many responsibilities that come with having sex. Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! I hope I helped.
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Thank you so much! That was wonderful advice =]
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