Ok, I'm Nadia. I enjoy showing cattle and graphic design art. I work at McDonalds but am somewhat intellectual. I am studying Social Work at university and it's really not as great as you may think. I used to suffer with depression and have been in and out of it since I was 14. I'm a believer in Jesus Christ and I follow Him the best I can but I am open to all religions and will not force mine upon you. :)
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I have this best friend I've known for 6 years now. She has been with her boyfriend for over a year now and sometimes I start to think I am becoming less important to her since her boyfriend came in the picture.
I tried to tell her how happy I am of her and her boyfriend but sometimes i feel left out of most things her and I used to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm the one crawling to her cause it's ALWAYS me asking her to come over to hang out or to go to the mall.
What bugs me the most is that when she's over my house to spend the night, she's talking to her boyfriend 9 pm til 2 in the morning. I've noticed that whenever I tried to make plans with her she pretty much says "Oh, I can't do anything today" then the next hour later, she's off at the mall with her boyfriend.
I don't mean to sound jealous at all, though I do get easily jealous but since I've started a new school year and a totaly different school, I don't want to get jealous of the stupidest things anymore.
I've also noticed that she's a totaly different person when she's around her boyfriend compared to me. When she's with me she's all crazy and wild and herself, but whenever we're (her boyfriend, her and I) are at the mall, her boyfriend would crack a joke about something and she'll end up laughing at me.
Another thing is that she tells her boyfriend EVERYTHING. I even have to tell her that I don't want anyone knowing in order to keep something between her and I private. I don't mean to sound rude or dis-respectful but I think her boyfriend should give her some space sometimes, he calls every minute when she's over my house and she tells him what we're doing, where we're going, blah, blah, blah.
Whenever I mention to her about "She pays more attention to her boyfriend than her other friends" and that "She never hangs out with me or other friends as often anymore" it's weird cause whenever I mention those things THEN that's where she'll start making plans.
Ah, I don't know what to do. It seems like she could care less about what I think of this whole thing, she wouldn't understand, trust me I tried telling her couple of times, she thinks it's no biggie.
It seems like she's kicking me out of the picture.
My closet friend is now someone I knew for 2 years and My friend who has the boyfriend I've known for 6 years.
What do you think I should do about this?
My friends told me I should talk to her about her forgetting about me and barely ever inviting me to places anymore. But I've tried that already.
I'm terribly sorry that this is extremely long but it's been bothering me for the past week.
Thanks bunches :) (link)
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my bestfriend did that to me!! grrr...well, what I did was for a year i tried to save our friendship by making her aware of how i felt we weren't as close anymore, but she didn't really listen. her boyfriend was another really close friend of mine, so i spoke to him about it, and he understood what i meant. so he talked to her for me too, but she still couldn't digest it or something. I felt like i was in a one way friendship. so i let it go for a while, couple of months, and in a couple of months she says to me "our friendship isn't as close as it used to be is it?".
You've got to let your friend figure it out for herself, even if that means 'letting go' (so to speak) for a little while. if it still doesnt work remember that everything happens for a reason.
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Thanks bunches. I forgot to mentioned that her boyfriend is a close friend of mine too, and i've never thought about talking to him about it.
THANKS A LOT :)
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